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Talking to yourself Bud?


Socially inept people don’t know how to comfortably socialise, engage in conversation, and calmly interact with others. They often misread social cues or feel physically anxious. They may have an intense fear of talking to new people and being humiliated in social settings. But that's not exactly what I'm talking about here, in fact the opposite.


Is it just me or do you find it odd when people speak openly in public with blue tooth earbuds? Usually, because I never use them, I think that they are talking to themselves, until I realise that in fact they aren't crazy. Or are they? I personally think it's somewhat ego driven, but that's just me.


Little by little, Internet and mobile technology seems to be subtly destroying the meaningfulness of interactions we have with others, disconnecting us from the world around us, and leading to an imminent sense of isolation today. Instead of spending time in person with friends, we just call, text, or instant message them. It may seem simpler, but we ultimately end up seeing our friends face to face a lot less. Ten texts can’t even begin to equal an hour spent chatting with a friend over lunch. And a smiley-face emoticon is cute, but it could never replace the ear-splitting grin and smiling eyes of one of your best friends. Face time is important, people. We need to see each other.


Can you imagine a generation without technology where people had meaningful interactions? This seems next to impossible for our generation but there was a time when this was a reality. Back then, people took out time from their daily schedule to interact with one another which is very uncommon nowadays. Have you realized how technology has made you independent as well as dependent at the same time? It has provided you with solutions to almost all your problems that even if you get stuck, you can simply use technology to solve them. But if you look closely, you will see that by providing solutions to our problems, technology is making us dependent on it. There has been a direct impact on the way we interact with one another. When we faced issues previously, we contacted our loved ones or the concerned person asking them to help us. But now, instead of getting in touch with them, we simply use technology and unknowingly avoid human interaction in the process impacting our social interactions.


We should eliminate our dependence on technology for interaction, and here’s why. When we interact with others more through technology, our messages become ambiguous. Considering our tendency to interpret ambiguous messages as negative, it is better to avoid them as much as possible. This will reduce the chances of miscommunication. We should also replace online discussions that can take place in person with better outcomes. We have forums and other online platforms that allow us to interact with others but these same platforms become a source of negativity. As long as we are having healthy discussions, we are good to go but once it goes in the opposite direction, there are consequences.


Back to BUDDY with the earbuds. All this really is in my opinion, ego driven fashion statement coupled with a need to be in constant virtual contact with someone. Why not just drop by and have a face to face conversation, you will accomplish so much more, and be much more fulfilled. I realise we are in a fast paced world these days, but we all have the same hours in a day. Put the phone away, and be a human being for a change.


In conclusion, I'm not saying technology doesn't have a place...or you wouldn't be reading this. There are loved ones and friends half way across the world, and the internet, cell phones and computers make what used to be impossible, possible. I'm only suggesting we become more human, and less robot like.


Cheers, and have a great weekend!

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